Serena Williams Wedding and The Absence of Her Father ~ What’s Really Going On! (Update)
Serena Williams Wedding and The Absence of Her Father
It seems that Twitter and Social media, in general, has erupted behind the news of Serena’s lavish wedding to her husband, who happens to be non-black. There were several things that were blatantly conspicuous, beginning with the absence of her father, Richard Williams. Second, there seems to be an attempt to lighten the tone of the wedding entourage. When I say tone in mean in skin complexion.
Richard Williams has gone on record as saying that all of his life he has been hated by Whites; therefore; he does not approve of Serena and Venus’ choices as far as men go.
Before addressing this topic, there are a couple of things that need to be addressed upfront.
1. You can help who you fall in love with(The “you can’t help who you fall in love with” excuse is a copout). Watch the video.
2. Economic empowerment on an individual level does not automatically extract one from the fails of self-hatred and a loss of identity. Money only serves to facilitate the desire to assimilate.
3. There can be no Black power without there being Black accountability, so the “it’s not my business” approach has no gravity in the thrust for total liberation and empowerment.
There are some who believe that the fact that Venus and Serena’s estranged relationship with their father due to his infidelity and abandonment of their mother led to the outright betrayal of one his strongest passions — protecting the Blackness of his daughters.
There are others who make the argument that Serena couldn’t control who she fell in love with, which we know not to be the case. Controlling who you fall in love with is one of the most primitive principles and responsibilities in life. You don’t accidentally fall in love with a criminal, abuser, rapist, etc. The moment you find out who they are, you understand that who they are automatically disqualifies them from being in your life and you move on. You have to at least be willing to accept them for who they are to get close enough for you to develop feelings for them. That is a choice.
While there are some concrete guidelines that many of us live by, we cannot ignore some of the social realities that could have easily played a role in Serena’s decision to marry outside of her race. With over 1.5 million Black men missing due to mass incarceration, violence, and other factors, it is slim pickings in the area of finding a good Black man — a negative reality that is exacerbated as Black women continue to climb the ladder of success.
Black men are also extremely more likely to marry outside our race than our women, leaving a situation in which one in four Black women will never get married.
We must also acknowledge the fact that Serena has dated some Black men, some high-profile Black men, and for whatever reason, it didn’t work. She has gone on record to say that the White man she has treats her better than any Black man has ever treated her. Are we to ignore this point? I believe it is for many of us just to dismiss her claim as an excuse to step outside the race.
There is something to be said for loyalty to our race, but in demanding this type of loyalty of our women, we better damn well have ourselves up for the task, and unfortunately, this is not currently the case.
Updated Tuesday, November 21, 2017
The following is a response to a comment on a social media platform asking me to make better sense of Serena’s behavior.
“I believe the video explains my position. While it is easily explained away through superficial rhetoric, this situation is immensely more complicated than what is on the surface.
There are many questions that you must ask yourself, beginning with:
1. Why would a woman who has experienced racism in her profession to the point of boycotting a tournament for an entire decade marry within the group that assaulted her?
2. Why are our Black successful women (Eve, Janet, Serena, etc) all of a sudden jumping over to the other side? Remember all of these women dated Black men exclusively at one point, including Halle Berry.
3. What role did the manner in which her father treated her mother, after decades of marriage, have on her perception of Black men?
4. How has her travel and exposure to multiple cultures shape her perspective?
Allow me to be clear, I am not an advocate of interracial marriage, especially when it comes to Europeans. I believe it diminishes impact, identity, and influence. It is hard to lead a charge when you are seen as a person who has the enemy in your camp (mixed-loyalty). However, I am forced to examine the dynamic through which things develop. For instance, statistically speaking Black women are the least likely to marry outside of their race — Black men, not so.
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